The Dennis Gurney whom Tisha Slater knew was a horribly scarred but gentle soul who made great milkshakes, listened patiently to a young woman's problems and deeply loved his wife.

Last Saturday, that same man allegedly shot and killed a Montrose police officer and wounded two others who arrived at his house to protect his wife from him.

Gurney, 52, the father of three grown children, ended his battle with police by putting a gun to his head and committing suicide, Montrose County Coroner Thomas Canfield said Tuesday.

Nearby lay the body of Sgt. David Kinterknecht, 42, a popular officer who called his teenage daughters after every volleyball or basketball game he missed. A single shotgun round to the chest killed Kinter- knecht.

Montrose officers Rodney Ragsdale and Larry Witte were wounded in the shootout.

Slater, 31, was once engaged to Gurney's son. During her high school years, she spent most of her free time with the Gurney family, she said Tuesday.

Dennis Gurney had been badly burned while still in his 20s when an oil rig he was working on exploded. The explosion left him disabled, his face a grim mask of scar tissue.

"I can't dismiss what he did, but you can't live through that and not have scars that nobody else can understand," Slater said. "The fact is when you are angry, you take it out on the people closest to you."

Since Sunday, when news of the incident broke, Slater said she has been trying to come to terms with the picture of Gurney that has emerged.

The man whom she remembers as a devoted husband had a well-documented record of spousal abuse and had been in and out of jail over the past year for violating restraining and protective orders.

Neighbors remembered police coming to the house several times over the past year after his wife Pamela, 50, called for help.

Pamela Gurney couldn't be reached for comment Tuesday. Lydia Gurney, her daughter-in-law, said Pamela Gurney didn't want to talk to the media.

In an arrest affidavit obtained by the Daily Sentinel newspaper in Grand Junction, his wife, whose name is blacked out in the document, described him as "an alcoholic (who) becomes violent when he drinks."

The affidavit, filed Sept. 9, 2008, said Gurney slapped her twice and grabbed a phone from her when she tried to call her daughter. Then he slapped her again.

"She fell to the ground and he got on top of her and started to choke her with both hands. She was able to kick him off and she grabbed the house phone and called police," the affidavit said.

In the years between 1995 and 2000, when Slater was close to Gurney, she never knew him to drink even a beer, she said.

Neighbors and others described Gurney as depressed in the months before he snapped.

In the early spring this year, Gurney checked into the Country Lodge, a hotel outside Montrose. He spent his time there writing letters to his wife urging reconciliation, innkeeper Jeff Anderson told a reporter Monday.

"Whatever happened in the past couple of years, that was not the man I knew," Slater said. "I know at one time he loved her and he loved his family. He was like a father to me; if I had a problem, I could always talk to him."