Written by Ken Agu
Monday, 12 July 2010 05:55
Case 1: Barely a month ago , the internet was abuzz with the story of a Nigerian Pharmacist who killed his wife. Olufemi Oladapo Ademoye, 52, ran out of his house at 8615 Villa Largo Drive in north Tampa at 9:50 a.m. and asked a neighbor to call 911. He said his wife, Juliet Ademoye, had a heart attack, according to the Hillsborough County Sheriff's Office. But when deputies and rescue crews arrived, they found that the master bedroom and bathroom were covered in blood. Deputies also determined that an aluminum baseball bat was covered with her blood. Juliet Ademoye, 53, was pronounced dead by Hillsborough County Fire Rescue.
Before that was Michael Iheme.
Case 2: On Thursday, July 24, 2008, a 50-year old Nigerian man Michael Collins Iheme shot and killed his 28-year old estranged wife, Anthonia Iheme. Iheme reportedly placed an emergency call to the police after allegedly killing his wife. He was quoted as having told policemen on arrival at the scene of the murder that he had “killed the woman that messed my life up, a woman that destroyed me.”
Eye witnesses said Anthonia was shot as she left work at the Sholom Home West, an assisted-living centre.
Iheme fired at the vehicle. Anthonia’s car then lurched forward, clipped a van, jumped a kerb and rolled down a hill into a fence. Iheme was said to have followed the car down the hill and fired more shots at the car.
When Iheme was arrested at the scene, a semi-automatic handgun was found near his car, police said. The police also found a gun permit inside the car.
Police also said that an hour and a half before the shooting, Iheme went to the day-care centre for their children and left a new emergency contact information, “in case something happened today.”
Case 3: A Nigerian woman was found murdered in a Burtonsville, Maryland, U.S. home she lived with her husband Chidiebere Omenihu and three children. Police responding to a report of an unconscious woman, found the lifeless body of 36-year-old Chidiebere Omenihu Ochulo around 2:30 a.m at their home. There was no sign of her 41-year-old husband, Kelechi Charles Emeruwa and their three children. Mr. Emeruwa was seen washing a blood stained knife according to unconfirmed reports. He was believed to have fled the city with the children.
Police on failing to locate Mr. Emeruwa and the children at their home, commenced a manhunt for the suspect and issued an Amber Alert on the missing children. Amber Alert is a U.S. voluntary partnership program between law-enforcement agencies, broadcasters, and transportation agencies to activate an urgent bulletin in the most serious child-abduction cases. Broadcasters use the Emergency Alert System (EAS) to air a description of the abducted child and suspected abductor.
Police arrested the suspect, 41-year-old Kelechi Charles Emeruwa, on a first-degree murder warrant in the death of his wife. The children were unharmed and taken into custody by police.
Case 4: Mr. Theophilius Ojukwu who is now serving a life sentence in Texas for killing his wife Melvina , allegedly fled to a hotel in Mesquite, a Texan city, with his four children, and called police informing them of the incident. Mr. Ojukwu was arrested that evening and remanded in custody at Lew Sterrett Justice Center.
Sources close to the family said that about two years ago, Melvina Ojukwu’s mother, who was here on a visit, tragically died in her house, at the same 5400 block of Barcelona Drive where she met her untimely and heartbreaking death.
THE POINT OF DEPARTURE: It is very sad that Nigerians who are seeking for greener pasture end up in a redder pasture.
That you filed papers and brought your wife to the USA is not a license for you to kill your wife. The idea and concept of god-Father-ism as envisioned in Nigerian politics seem to be in most cases genetic with most Nigerian men. It has been seen over and over again that Nigerian men are highly controlling and domineering albeit the alpha males. For instance, Ibrahim Babangida played a god-father to Olusegun Obasanjo and consequently Obasanjo playing a godfather to President Jonathan, late Adedibu to Alao-akala, Jim Nwobodo to Chimaroke Nnamani, Chimaroke Nnamani to Sullivain Chime, Ibori to Uduaghan, Tinubu to Fashola ,Atiku to Boni Haruna , Orji Kalu to Orji, Ojukwu to Obi and the list goes ad infinitum.
The immoral Philosopher Niccolo Machiavelli once said , “before all else, be armed” . Machiavelli envisioned a total control of the subjects by the Prince by all means possible and necessary without morality. He warned that it is better to deal decisively with any form of disobedience at it’s earlier stage than to wait up on till when the problem is beyond control.
According to this brutal Philosophy, if it means death so be it.
You need to understand Machiavelli for you to understand the penchant for god-father-ism inherent in the soul of many Nigerian men ranging from politicians, scammers aka 419-ers to brutal husbands etc.
Having said this, it is pertinent to note that Nigerian women in the USA are now more Americanized than the “real Americans” . Immorality and infidelity are the bane of Nigerian women here in the USA. Some of these Nigerian Ladies consider it an honor to get laid by a white man. Not that I have anything about sexual relationship with any race but not when you are in a matrimonial home.
Here in New York, I have heard of Nigerian women both married and unmarried who are into nude dancing/prostitution, porn industry and all sorts of aberrations in the name of making quick buck in the USA. Making money is very good but it needs to be done in the right way and in the right conditions. Some of these Nigerian ladies end up having kid(s) with their unknown patronizing men. Some of them hide these kids and put them in shelters just to marry the Nigerian men of their dreams and vice versa with the males. But one thing these folks fail to understand is that , “nothing is hidden under the sun and as man sow so shall s/he reaps”. That Financial instability ruins a family is very understanding but pushing your wife to be a nude dancer is certainly not the way to go. Eventually, suspicion will make you to gun for her head. Money is the root of all evil.
Nigerians should be careful in the way that they chase money. Nigerians fail to understand that it is not everybody that will be a millionaire.
Other Nigerian women believe that Freedom in America comes without responsibility. John Locke- the liberal English thinker and Philosopher once said that ,”Freedom means to be in chain as your freedom ends where another man’s freedom starts”
Being free does not mean you disrespect the man that labored to bring you to America. You should respect him.
Most Nigerian women watch Winfrey Oprah, Tyra Bank shows etc without proper rationality and putting into context where they came from and the diversity of cultures involved. Listening to Oprah can be so helpful and destructive. Unfortunately, most Nigerian women who revolt against their husbands fail to understand that most of these talk show hosts does not even have husband(s) and yet they give you advice on how to stay with yours.
In most cases, Nigerian men tend to show off when they go to their respective villages in Nigeria to marry these young women, some of them in their teenage years. They claim to be Mayors or assistants to Governors in the USA. Unfortunately they may be a mere taxi drivers and restaurant managers etc. It is obvious that such women who follow men for money would leave such a man when they discover that you are not well to do.
Most Importantly, Nigerians in their quest to Americanize often times forget prayers and the essence of God in their life. It does not matter in what you believe but what matters is that you believe in something supernatural. Even the Greek philosopher Plato believed that God existed even though he called Him, “ logos”.
The emphasis on the Metaphysical can not be over emphasized, the fear of the “unseen one” watching closely is very important in our lives.
THE POINT OF ARRIVAL: Most Nigerian men kill their wives because of fear that their wives will inherit all or some of their wealth and properties. Well the obvious reason is that most of them do not have pre-nuptial in the name of love and tradition. Pre-nuptial agreement is very important prior to each marriage.
That way there is no fear and mutual suspicion in the household.
Also when you bring your wife in the USA, get it into your head that she is not your slave and that as a matter of fact that both of you are equal. Be open to her and tell her what you do before bringing her. Let her know in plain terms that you are not rich.
Take her to Mosque, Church or any place of worship and introduce her to the pastor, Priest, Imam etc so that not only a physical community but also a super natural community is formed around your household.
Talk to her about financial matters and try to share bills etc. If you pay all the bills and she saves all her money, then, there is a risk of you bringing up arm whenever she leaves you for a younger man. Virtue they say lies in the middle and Roman people said, “Verbum sapientia Satis” meaning that a word is enough for the wise.
Ken Agu, monak19@hotmail.com
2 comments:
Well written!
What will you say when it is the wife who filed for the husband, respects him, works double, takes care of the house, bills and got physically abusedon several occasions. The man gave her a serious warning not to get the law involved before he took off! What is your advice? Nigerian men are just gold diggers, terror & womanishers!
Well said and Good job, u are absolutely right.....thanks for the advise
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